Only 1% people reach this level of Thinking: So, this is the very first time I am about to say something. I am not very comfortable speaking. Usually, I just sing.

I would like to begin with one of your beautiful quotes:

“Only because of the mind, you and I are different. If there is no mind, we are one.”

When I first heard this, I could not help but connect it with music.

In physics, there is a fascinating concept called string theory, which suggests that at the deepest level of creation, everything in the universe is a vibration. Every particle, every form, and every existence is simply a different vibration within the same fundamental reality.

Music is a bridge between the individual and the infinite

If everything is a vibration, then music is not merely entertainment. Music is a bridge between the individual and the infinite.

I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude.

I am not the mind, intellect, ego, or consciousness,
Not the ears, tongue, nose, or eyes.
I am not the sky, earth, fire, air,
I am the form of consciousness and bliss, I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

I am not the life breath, nor the five vital airs,
Not the seven elements, nor the five sheaths.
I am neither speech, hands, feet, nor the organs of procreation or excretion,
I am the form of consciousness and bliss, I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

I have no hatred, greed, delusion, or arrogance,
Neither pride nor jealousy do I possess.
I am not dharma, nor wealth, nor desire, nor liberation,
I am the form of consciousness and bliss, I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

Neither virtue nor sin, neither pleasure nor pain,
No sacred chants, pilgrimages, scriptures, nor rituals.
I am neither the enjoyed nor the enjoyer,
I am the form of consciousness and bliss, I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

No fear of death, no distinction of caste,
I have no father, mother, or birth.
I am neither a relative nor a friend,
I am the form of consciousness and bliss, I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

I am beyond attributes, formless,
Everywhere and in every sense organ.
I am not attached, nor am I free,
I am the form of consciousness and bliss, I am Shiva, I am Shiva.

Predict your next thought for the next 5 seconds

By the end of this post, you will not experience any of the thoughts that will come to your mind like before and if you think that I am exaggerating then let’s do just one experiment.

Predict your next thought for the next 5 seconds. What will that be? What topic will it be on? When will it come? Maybe you won’t be able to do it. Because you don’t decide thoughts. You just notice them and if thoughts are coming to your mind without permission then a question arises who is watching them.

This question seems as simple as it is dangerous because if you go out to find its answer honestly then the foundation of your identity can be shaken.

The biggest problem in your life is not your thoughts

We grow up believing from childhood that what we think is what we are. If the mind says I am a loser then we accept it. If the mind says that people are judging me, then we believe it without any evidence. If the mind says I can’t do this, then we give up even before trying.

But what if I say that the biggest problem in your life is not your thoughts. Rather, it is that you accept them as your own without verifying them. And because of this one mistake people ruin relationships. They lose crores. They choose wrong careers. And sometimes they live their entire lives living a story that their mind has written. Reality did not.

This is not a motivational thing. This is exactly the same thing that philosophers were trying to understand about two and a half thousand years ago. Ancient Greece Athens was a city where debates took place in every street. Every man thought he had the answers. But among them all there was one man who instead of giving answers, only asked questions. His name was Socrates. He would ask someone, why do you believe this? If he got the answer, he would ask again and then give proof of it. If you were wrong, then gradually people started realizing that most of their beliefs were based on assumptions and not facts.

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I know that I know nothing

And after this journey, Socrates said the line which is still considered one of the most powerful definitions of human intelligence. I know that I know nothing. This was not weakness. This was awareness. Because only the person who sees his ignorance truly starts learning. That is why ‘Know Theself’ was written on the entrance of the Temple of Apollo. Today, people think of this quote as motivation. But at that time it meant observe your thoughts. Observe your beliefs. And first of all, observe how often your mind unnecessarily convinces you that it is always right.

Your brain cannot see reality directly

Surprisingly, almost 2400 years later, neuroscience also reached the same conclusion. But this time it was not philosophy but MRI machines that were speaking. And what he discovered is probably the most important turning point in this post. Your brain cannot see reality directly. It makes a prediction of reality every second and then compares that prediction with information coming from outside. Meaning, many times you don’t see the world as it is. You see the world as your brain expects it to. That is why two people, after seeing the same incident, draw completely different conclusions.

A student comes out of the exam hall and says The paper was impossible. The other person, after looking at the same paper, says it was normal. The reality was the same but the prediction was different. Neuroscientists call this model predictive processing. Your brain doesn’t record reality like a camera. He is a prediction machine. Guess first. Then it collects evidence and then gives you an experience. This system is brilliant for survival. But not always perfect for objective truth. That’s why when you see a rope in the woods and mistake it for a snake, your brain reacts first. Verify later. Speed comes before accuracy. But because of this system, our biggest psychological mistakes in modern life also happen.

You form a first impression of a person and then look at every new one through that lens. Once you identify yourself as average, your brain only collects evidence that supports that identity. That’s why your biggest enemy is not the world. These are your brain’s predictions. And whenever there is a conflict between prediction and reality. A region of the brain gets activated. Anterior cingulate cortex. Think of it as your brain’s internal referee. It keeps monitoring every second. Did what I expected happen? If there is no response, it generates an error signal. But seeing the signal and accepting it are two different things. Most people don’t change their opinion even after seeing the error. Why?

Because Brain likes feeling right more than being right. This was proved by a strange incident of 1995. A man named Meth Lollar went to rob a bank. By applying lemon juice to his face, he was sure that lemon juice would confuse the cameras like invisible ink. After a few hours, the police arrested him on the basis of CCTV footage. As soon as he was arrested, he said in surprise, but I said the juice. It wasn’t just stupidity. This incident forced psychologists David Dunning and Justin Kruger to conduct a research.

The result was shocking. The less knowledge a person has about a subject, the more confident he is in his abilities and as knowledge increases, the certainty decreases as the complexity becomes apparent. That’s why Bert Russell wrote, The Trouble with the World Is That the Foolish Are [ __ ] Shore While the Intelligent Are Full of Doubt. This is not doubt weakness. Sometimes it’s proof of awareness. But overconfidence is not the biggest trap of our brain. There is another illusion that silently manipulates your decisions every day.

The brain doesn’t look for proof. The brain seeks confirmation.

Imagine you’ve decided that someone is an agent. Now if he helps you 10 times, you might not even notice. But the day he behaved rudely. Your brain agent will speak. See I was already right. Psychology calls this confirmation bias. The brain doesn’t look for proof. The brain seeks confirmation. That’s why Richard Feynman said, “The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool.” And this is where metacognition begins. Intelligence doesn’t mean thinking too much. Intelligence means grasping your own thinking. Question it and change it if necessary. And the first system for building this ability is so simple that people underestimate its power. But if you genuinely master just this one system, your decisions can change permanently.

The Observer Mind

This system is called The Observer Mind. Observer Mind. This may sound like a meditation technique. But in reality, this is the hidden ability of every high performer. An experienced sniper doesn’t pull the trigger just because he sees the target. First he looks at the wind, looks at the distance, controls his heart beat, then takes a decision. A surgeon doesn’t panic in the middle of an operation. A chess grandmaster doesn’t make the first move. A Hostage Negotiator doesn’t give the first answer. There is one thing common among all these. Observation before reaction. And because of this observation, their prefrontal cortex is able to override the emotional impulse. Let’s do an experiment. Don’t try to stop your thoughts for the next 15 seconds. Just let them come. One thought will come and another will replace it.

Then the third one. Now ask yourself just one question. If I could see these thoughts. So who is watching them? In this one second your perspective starts changing. Because for the first time you realize that you are not a thought. You are an observer of thought. And this realization is also described by psychologists as cognitive diffusion. Don’t destroy thought. Break your identity with him. Instead of I am a failure. The thought of failure has arisen in my brain. Instead of feeling anxious, my nervous system is perceiving threat. It doesn’t just change the wording. It creates distance between you and your thoughts. Viktor Frankl wrote Between Stimulus and Response There Is a Space. In that space is a power to choose our response. That space is the observer mind.

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Thought Labeling

But just observing is not enough. If you cannot identify the emotion, how will you regulate it? That’s why system to thought labeling comes into play. UCLA neuroscientist Matthew Lieberman observed that when people just name their emotions accurately. If it’s anxiety, it’s shame, it’s frustration, then emotional reactivity starts to decrease and the prefrontal cortex gets more effectively engaged. So next time you get angry, don’t say I’m very angry. Just saying Interesting. The anger response is activated in my brain. This small sentence separates your identity from your emotion. And when the identity is separated, control starts coming back.

Error Journal

Now the System Three error journal. Elite fighter pilots don’t just write down what happened after every mission. He writes what he thought at that time because mistakes do not happen in actions. The mistake lies in the thinking process that led to the action chosen. Write just three lines every night. What did I assume? What was the reality? And where was my thinking biased? After just one month, the source code of your brain will start opening up before you. Perhaps you consider every criticism an insult. Perhaps you always make quick decisions under pressure. Perhaps you imagine failure before every new task. And once you see a pattern, breaking it is only a matter of time. But experts don’t just record their mistakes. They also test the future. And that is the next level of metacognition.

Prediction Logging

Prediction logging is not about looking into the future. To measure your confidence about the future. Imagine you think the interview will go badly or you’re sure this business idea will be 100% successful. Most people make predictions and then forget them. But metacognition says write prediction. Also write how confident I am. 80% 90% or just guessing. Then when the results come back to that page. Gradually you will notice that you are unnecessarily overconfident in some situations and unnecessarily underestimate yourself in some. Intelligence doesn’t mean always being right. Intelligence means knowing how often you are wrong. That’s why legendary investor Warren Buffett doesn’t just look at opportunities before every decision. He also questions his assumptions because it’s not hard to beat the market. It is difficult to defeat your ego.

The Outside View

Now comes System Five the outside view. Imagine for a second that your current problem happened to your best friend. Would you give him the same advice you are giving yourself? Probably not. Because when the problem is ours, ego, fear and emotions come in between. But when someone else faces the same problem, the brain becomes more rational. Many psychologists use this technique in the name of self-distancing. And research repeatedly suggests that a third-person perspective can improve decision quality. Next time you have to take a big decision in life. Just ask a question. If my friend were in my place, what would I say to him? Sometimes your clarity is hidden in that one answer.

The Inversion Method

Now System Six The Inversion Method. One of Charlie Munger’s favorite thinking strategies. Most people ask how to become successful? But Munger used to ask how failure would be guaranteed? If you want to be healthy then don’t just think about gym. Also think about what habits ruin your body. If you want a good relationship, don’t just think about love. Also think about what breaks trust. Sometimes the quickest shortcut to success is to eliminate the causes of failure.

Scheduled Thinking

And the last system is probably the most practical, scheduled thinking. Overthinking cannot be stopped by force. Daniel Wegner’s research showed that the thoughts you try to force out of your mind come back again and again. So don’t fight with your brain. Give him a schedule. Fix just 15 minutes every day just to think. Whenever any unnecessary thought comes to your mind during the day, say it to yourself. Its time is 8:00 pm. Gradually the brain learns that not every random thought will get immediate attention. And it is at this point that metacognition becomes habit from knowledge. But perhaps the biggest illusion is still to come.

The opposite of intelligence is autopilot

People think that the opposite of intelligence is stupidity. In reality, the opposite of intelligence is autopilot. And the day you come out of auto pilot, the direction of your life will start changing. Because a person makes his life through decisions, and decisions are of the same quality as the quality with which he observes his thinking. 2400 years ago, Socrates left just two words. Know Thyself. Perhaps even he did not know at that time that thousands of years later, neuroscience would prove his point in laboratories. Your greatest enemy is not the world. You don’t even have a past.

You don’t even have a future. Your biggest enemy is the story your brain tells you every day without evidence. And the day you stop blindly believing that story, that’s the day your freedom begins. Metacognition doesn’t make you smarter. It teaches you to see your own stupidity and ironically that is the beginning of real intelligence. From today onwards, whenever any strong emotion comes, whenever you feel like taking any impulsive decision, whenever your brain says, you cannot do it.

Just stop for a second and ask yourself. Is this reality speaking or is it just my brain making predictions? Maybe because of this one question your next decision and maybe your whole life will take a different direction if you want to understand the hidden mechanisms of your brain in this way. Don’t miss these posts because the most dangerous breeding ground is not the one with closed gates. The most dangerous thing is the one you never realize.

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Summery

Before I begin this article, I want to say something. I could talk about this topic for years and write millions of words because it is my favorite subject. But for now, I am only sharing my understanding.

Many years ago, I heard a story that stayed with me. It became one of my favorites, and I still remember it almost line by line. About a week ago, I watched a video that included many different stories. One of them had almost the same ending as the story I heard years ago.

It is a beautiful story, and I have learned a lot from it. I hope you will learn something from it too. At the end of this article, I will share what love means to me. Maybe my perspective will help you see the world in a different way and give you something meaningful to think about.

To be honest, I should probably be working on my apps instead. But I left all of that aside to write this because I genuinely felt that I should. Maybe these words will help someone, and if they do, then writing this will be worth it.

So, let’s begin.The Tree Gave Everything. The Boy Gave Nothing. This Story Will Break Your Heart and Fix It Too. Most people spend their whole life giving love a name without ever understanding what it actually is. I was one of them. And then I came across two things that changed how I see every relationship I have ever had.

The first is a story. A story so simple it should not hurt this much. But it will. The second is a truth so uncomfortable that most people will refuse to accept it. Only 10 percent of people understand the actual meaning and value of love. I used to wonder why. And then I came across this story. And after this, I stopped wondering.

Understanding is deeper than knowledge. There are many people who know you, but very few who understand you. This story is not about knowledge. It is about understanding.

The Tree That Loved Without Reason

I have heard of a very old tree. Its branches spread across the sky like the arms of an emperor. When flowers bloomed on it, birds came from far away just to take in the fragrance. When fruits appeared, butterflies would dance around it. Its shadow, its wide open arms, the way it stood in the wind, all of it was beautiful against the sky.

A small child used to come every day to play in its shade. And that great tree fell in love with that small child.

The big can love the small. But only if the big do not know that they are big. The tree had no idea that it was big. Only humans carry that awareness. That is why the tree could love.

Ego always tries to love those who are bigger than itself. Ego always connects with those who are above it. But love has no big or small. Whoever comes, love connects with them.

When Love Bends Down

The child was small and the branches were high. So the tree would bend its branches down for him so he could pick the fruits, pick the flowers. Love is always ready to bend. Ego is never ready to bend.

If you go to ego, ego lifts its hands even higher so you cannot reach. Because whoever can be touched is considered small. Only the one who cannot be touched, who sits far away on some throne, that person is considered great.

But the tree’s branches would come down the moment that child came playing. And when the child plucked its flowers, the tree would become very happy. Its whole being would fill with joy.

When love is able to give something, it becomes happy. When ego is able to take something, only then it becomes happy.

The Boy Grew Up

The child used to sometimes sleep in the tree’s shade, sometimes eat its fruits, sometimes make a crown of its flowers and wear it and become the emperor of the forest.

Whoever has the flowers of love raining down on them becomes an emperor. And wherever ego surrounds a person, everything becomes darkness, the person becomes poor and small.

The boy would wear the crown of flowers and dance and the tree would be very happy. Its whole being would fill with joy. The winds would rustle and the tree would sing.

Then the boy grew older. He started climbing the tree, started swinging from its branches. He would rest on its branches and the tree would be full of joy.

Love becomes joyful when love becomes a shade for someone. Ego becomes joyful when it snatches someone’s shade away.

When Ambition Came

But the boy kept growing and the days kept passing. As the boy got bigger, his other work in the world also came. Ambitions arrived. He had exams to pass. Friends to impress. He would come sometimes, sometimes not at all. But the tree would wait for him. Come, come. Its whole being would call out, come, come.

Love always waits. Love is a waiting, an awaiting.

But when he would come sometimes and not come other times, the tree would become sad. Love has only one sadness. When it cannot share, it becomes sad. And love has only one joy. When it gives, when it pours itself out, then it becomes joyful.

As the boy got bigger in the world of ambition, the chances of him coming near love kept getting fewer and fewer.

What Is Yours If I Come?

Then one day the boy was passing by and the tree called to him. In the winds its voice echoed. I wait for you. I look for you. I watch for you.

The boy said, what do you have that I should come? I need money.

Ego always asks, what do you have that I should come? Ego demands, if there is something I will come. If there is nothing, there is no need to come. Ego has a purpose, a reason. If the purpose is served then I will come. If there is no purpose, why come at all.

And love is purposeless. Love has no purpose. Love is its own purpose. It is completely purposeless.

The tree was stunned. It said, you will only come if I can give you something? I can give you everything. Because love does not want to hold anything back. Whatever holds back is not love. Ego holds back. Love gives unconditionally. But money I do not have. Money is only a human invention. Trees have not caught this disease.

The tree said, that is exactly why we are so joyful. So many flowers bloom on us, so many fruits come, such great shade we have. We dance so much in the sky, we sing so many songs. Birds come to us and fill the air with music. Because we have no money. The day we also have money, we will also sit in poor little temples like humans wondering how to find peace, how to find love. No no, we have no money.

So the boy said, then why should I come to you? I have to go where the money is.

The Tree Gave Everything

The tree thought for a long time. Then an idea came. Then you do one thing. Take all my fruits, pick them and sell them, maybe you will get some money.

And the boy too thought about it. He climbed up and picked all the fruits. He knocked down the unripe ones too. Branches broke, leaves fell. But the tree was very happy, very joyful.

Even when broken, love remains joyful. Ego even when it receives is not joyful, even when it gets it remains unhappy.

And the boy did not even say thank you when he left. But the tree did not even notice. Because for the tree, the thanks had already come. He had accepted its love and taken its fruits to the market to sell.

But then the boy did not come for a very long time. He had money now and he was busy trying to make money from money. He forgot.

Years passed. And the tree is sad. But its being is overflowing with juice waiting for its beloved to come and take that juice. Like a mother whose breasts are full of milk and her son is lost, and her whole being is aching, where is my son, who will find him, who will make me lighter, who will unburden me. Like that the tree’s being began to be pained. Come, come, come.

A Man Came Back

After many days he came back. But now that boy had become a grown man. The tree said, come to me. Come into my embrace.

He said, leave this nonsense. These are childhood things.

Ego thinks love is madness, childhood things.

The tree said, come, swing from my branches. Dance.

He said, leave these pointless things. I have to build a house. Can you give me a house?

The tree said, a house? We live without houses. In this whole world only humans live in houses. No one else does. And look at the condition of the human who lives in houses. The bigger the house gets, the smaller the human becomes. We live without houses. But one thing is possible. If you cut my branches and take them, maybe you can build a house.

And that grown man came with an axe and cut down all the branches of that tree. The tree became a bare stump, naked. But the tree was very joyful.

Love is always joyful, even if its limbs are cut away. As long as someone takes something, someone shares, someone becomes a part of it, a partner in it.

And the boy did not even look back. He built his house. And time kept passing. That stump kept watching the road waiting for him to come. It wanted to call out but now it had no leaves, no branches. The winds would come and it could not even speak, could not even call.

But inside its being there was only one echo. Come. Come.

When There Was Nothing Left to Give

Many more days passed. Then that child had become an old man. He was passing by near the tree. He came and stood near the stump. The tree asked, what can I do for you? You have come after so many days.

He said, what can you do now? I have to go to a far country to earn money. I need a boat.

So the tree said, cut me further and a boat can be made from my trunk. And I will be very blessed that I could become your boat and take you to a far country. But come back quickly and come back safely. I will wait for you.

And he sawed down the tree. Then only a small stump remained. And he went off on his long journey. And that stump also kept waiting. Come, come.

But now it has nothing left to give. Maybe he will not come. Because ego only goes where there is something to receive. Ego does not go where there is nothing to receive.

One Night I Was a Guest Near That Stump

I was a guest near that stump one night. And that stump spoke to me. My friend has not come yet. And I feel so much pain that maybe the boat sank, maybe he got lost somewhere, maybe in some far shore in some foreign land he forgot, maybe he drowned, maybe he is gone.

If just one piece of news would come. I am close to dying now. Just one piece of news that he is safe, that is all I need. Then nothing else matters. Then everything is fine.

Now I have nothing left to give so even if I call he probably will not come. Because he only understands the language of taking.

Ego understands the language of taking. Love is the language of giving.

I will not say more than this.

99 Percent Garbage, 1 Percent Gold

If you think carefully about the love of an ordinary human being, you will be very surprised. There is so much mud mixed into that love. There is so much garbage mixed into that gold that the gold might be 1 percent. 99 percent is garbage.

In the name of love, even hatred is hidden inside.

Have you ever noticed this? Love does not take long to turn into hatred. How long does it take for a friend to become an enemy? The woman you were ready to die for, you become ready to take her life too. How long does that take?

Love turns into hatred so quickly. Love can become hatred. And if love can become hatred then what kind of love is it?

Love cannot become hatred. Then whatever turned into hatred was never love in the first place. It was something else. It was hatred itself. It was just wearing the mask of love and putting on a performance.

What We Actually Do in the Name of Love

In the name of love you are exploiting each other. In the name of love you are using each other. In the name of love you are owning each other. In the name of love there is politics. There is manipulation.

Love is a very tempting word. A very beautiful word. It traps people very well. Whoever you tell that I love you very much, that person falls for your words.

You do not even love yourself. Then who else will you love?

You say you love your children. You do not love your children. You love them because they are yours. They are mine. It is part of your ego, that is why there is love. And if your son becomes the Prime Minister, a lot of love will be produced. And if your son becomes a criminal and goes to jail, you will go to court and announce that I refuse to accept that this is my son. The love will be finished.

Your love is also ego. Your love also goes only as far as your ego gets support. Gets respect. Gets honor.

Because of this experience of love people also start believing that love is a sin. But this is not even the experience of love. You kept picking up stones and pebbles and started saying that diamonds are a sin. You have no experience of diamonds.

What Real Love Actually Is

Experience love a little. Love is a wonderful phenomenon. It is not ordinary. It is extraordinary. The small ray of heaven that comes down to this earth, that is called love. The little glimpse of light that comes down into this darkness, that is called love. The little moisture that comes into this stony heart, that is called love.

Love means I am joyful in someone’s life. I am joyful because of someone’s life. Reasonless. Love has no reason. If there is a reason it is attachment. If there is no reason it is love.

If you tell someone I love you because of this reason, that is attachment. And if you cannot find any reason no matter how hard you look, if you look a million times and cannot find a reason, and you have to say I do not know why but there is love, then it is not attachment. That is love.

Love descends like it comes from the sky. It has no roots in the earth. Attachment has its roots in the earth.

Love Does Not Put a Noose Around Anyone’s Neck

And those who have called love a sin are making a mistake with words. They should call attachment a sin because attachment means the feeling of mine, possessiveness.

In love there is no attachment at all. Love is completely without attachment. You will be surprised to hear what I am saying. But I will say it again. Love is extremely without attachment. Love does not know attachment at all.

Love does not capture the other person. Neither does it capture nor does it allow itself to be captured. Love is freedom. Love is the exchange of freedom between two people. No one is anyone’s master and no one is anyone’s slave.

Love does not put a noose around each other’s necks. Love cuts nooses.

If you ever experience love in your life you will be surprised. You became free and the one you love also became free. Love brings liberation. Love is the giver of liberation.

And this kind of love is what Jesus called God. Buddha called it the final result of meditation. Mahavir called it the nature of liberation.

This love cannot be called a sin.

Why the Saints Got It Wrong Too

The words of the pandits and priests and so called saints suited you because they matched your experience. But your experience itself is wrong.

Your experience is of stones and pebbles. And when saints said that all diamonds are stones and pebbles, you also felt that the talk is right. And your experience of love in life is so polluted. So smoky. The flame is not even visible. There is only smoke.

So when the pandits said that eyes get damaged from smoke and there is only pain and where is happiness, you also agreed because that is your experience too.

But I tell you that love is a flameless flame. Love does not produce smoke. Yes, the garbage that is mixed in love produces smoke when it burns.

Understand it like this. You burn wood. When does smoke get produced and when does it not? Have you thought about it?

Burning wood never produces smoke if the wood is dry. If there is no water inside it, if it is not wet, then wood never produces smoke. If the wood is truly dry, completely dry, if there is not even a trace of water left in it, then there will be no smoke at all.

Smoke does not come from burning wood. But if the wood is wet then smoke comes. That wetness is not the wood. It is foreign to it.

If your love is blinding your eyes, if smoke is being produced, if life is becoming dark, if life is becoming full of confusion, if there is anger, if there is enmity, if there is jealousy, if there is burning, if all of this is happening, then understand that there is still a lot of garbage in your love. There is a lot of foreignness in it.

If someone calls this a sin it is fine. But it is not right to call love a sin.

Love never produces smoke. If your love produces smoke then dry the wood a little more. Make your love without attachment. Attachment keeps the wood wet. Make your love without attachment. Make your love without clinging.

Free your love from hatred, from jealousy, from burning.

And then you will be amazed that there is no need for prayer anymore. Your love itself became prayer.

Do Not Run Away. Do Not Renounce. Just Refine.

And the opportunity that life has given you for love, do not waste it like this.

People waste it in two ways. One are those people who keep doing something else in the name of love and think it is love. I call them the indulgers. The worldly ones. They waste their lives.

And the second are those who run away from the world. They get scared of the garbage of love and run away. Some have pressed the garbage to their chest. Some ran away scared of the garbage.

Those who pressed the garbage to their chest will also not find the gold. And those who ran away scared of the garbage, they ran away from the gold too. Because gold and garbage are all mixed together here. They will also never know love.

Those you consider saints, they also do not know love. Those you consider worldly, they also do not know love. The indulger is deprived. The yogi is deprived. Deprived in different ways but both deprived. One deprived because of holding on to garbage. One deprived because of leaving garbage. But both of them cannot see that something is hidden in the garbage. A lotus is hidden in the mud. Both of them cannot see this. That is their blindness.

I want you to live. Do not run away. Do not renounce.

Live life in its totality. Live life in all its forms. Yes. Just remember this one thing. Whatever form gives you pain, know that it needs to be refined. Not abandoned. Refined. Not renounced. Something in it is wrong. That wrongness has to be transformed.

What This Story Left Me With

May life become such a tree. And may the branches of that tree spread to infinity. May everyone be in its shade and may its arms reach to everyone. Then you can understand what love is.

Love has no scripture, no definition, no theory. It cannot be told in words. It can only be shown. If it shows in my eyes you can see it. If it shows in my hands you can see it. But if it is not in my eyes, if it is not in my hands, then no words can show you what love is.

You came naked. You will leave naked. You came without anything. You will leave without anything. So why so much hatred, resentment, envy, selfishness and pride? We will all go empty handed. Everything we have earned, we earned here and we will leave it here only. The only thing that will go with you is the love you gave. Not the love you received. The love you gave.

Everything in life is temporary. Pain is part of growing. But the one thing that does not die, even when the branches are cut, even when the trunk is taken, even when nothing is left, is love.

Because love does not need anything to remain. It just waits. Come. Come.

Everyone has a story. Take time to listen. Points of view are different, events mark people, circumstances shape people. Everybody’s views are valid. Going through something differently than you does not make their experience invalid. Show some understanding, be kind to others.

Do not waste the opportunity. Do not press the garbage to your chest. Do not run from it either. Just look carefully. The lotus is hidden in the mud. You only have to learn to see it.

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